Learning how to stop bad habits takes time, forgiveness, and personal accountability. It can’t be done overnight. Follow T. Harv Eker’s advice to develop a process for transforming bad habits into good habits.
Process for Learning How to Stop Bad Habits
Conditioning is a tough topic, yes? We know we can be better and do better. Additionally, we know we have so much to offer ourselves and others around us. However, we all have these bad habits that get in the way sometimes.
There are the obvious bad habits, like:
- Vices and diets that are bad for your health
- Not getting enough sleep
- Sleeping too much
- Lack of exercise
Alternatively, there are the bad habits that can be insidious, like not keeping your word to yourself or to others. What’s that about? Well, it could be a couple of things. It may come from not understanding how important the issue is that you’ve neglected. It could also be a subconscious disrespect of the other person and yourself.
But mostly, it’s just pure bad habit.
Developing Good and Bad Habits Over Time
Like I’ve said before, we’re all freaking robots. The minute we’re born, we’re a spiritual person who accepts the conditioning of a personality. Before, our mind is an empty place. It’s a brain that’s just a file cabinet waiting to be filled up. If it wasn’t, we wouldn’t have a brain that was so adaptive to learning.
A lot of the things we learn aren’t necessarily good or bad. Instead, they’re either helpful or not, depending on what we want to do.
Now what do you do as a robot? If the robot is not keeping its word, do you beat it up? No. You just need to change the programming. You need to teach the robot something else to do.
How do you do that?
First of all, the robot is very good at understanding an awareness of the process that says, “Robot, we’re not keeping our word, and we would feel better if we kept our word, so we want to do that. Will you buy in with me?” Of course it’s going to say, “Yes.”
You plead with your robot again, “From here on out, we’re going to do that, right robot?” While the robot may say, “Sure,” you know what happens the next day. The robot just does what it was programmed to do, doesn’t it?
What do you do? You gotta give the robot, not a drastic change in programming, but an easy one.
You say, “Robot, do you think you have the capability of keeping your word one time?” The robot says, “That’s easy. I can do that.”
Robots like really easy things. You go ahead and keep your word, and you do it with intentionality.
Then you say to your inner robot, “You felt so good about that, do you think you might be able to do one more change?”
“I could do one more. Of course I could!”
Now it’s just a question of memory and saying that when you say you’ll do it, you do it.
How to Stop Bad Habits One at a Time
If you want to replace a bad habit with another, better habit, you have to take on one thing at one time. Only then can you make worthwhile, long term changes.
Don’t say, “I’m going to commit to a new habit for 30 days.” You’re going to set yourself up for failure. Why? It’s because you’re a frickin’ robot. If you’ve been running another program for X amount of years, 30 days of new momentum is outstanding and not something that just “happens.”
While you can make 30 days long-term goal in the back of your head, for now, you should take it one step at a time. Focus on just one day at a time.
Now, what if you don’t keep your word on this one particular new habit, or you don’t do your new habit even once? You take a nice deep breath and say, “Thank you for doing the best you could today. You did not complete what you said you would. Would you be willing to commit for tomorrow?”
It’s okay to forgive yourself. After all, habits are deeply engrained. It’s okay that it takes time to honestly figure out how to stop bad habits. You’re literally pressing your robot’s restart button. Robots do what they do. They should always get another chance.
Remember, I’m the first guy in line to give tough love when it’s needed by my students. That’s what your teachers and mentors are for sometimes. However, even I think that you shouldn’t beat yourself up about habits that are tough to change. We’re born this way.
Still, we’re also creative enough to forge new paths. We’re imbued with gifts that allow us to create new ways of being. Kind self-accountability is what we’re looking for here. There are enough people in the world who are eager to beat us up, especially when we’re successful. Don’t do it to yourself.
Take on your transformations one at a time, one step at a time, and watch just how easy it can be to change bad habits.
Challenge yourself to use this simple process with a particularly difficult habit you’ve been wanting to change. Now, let us know what you’ve learned about how to stop bad habits! We want to hear from you!
For Your Freedom,
This lesson was a good first step, but now I want you to look at your life. Do you have everything that you want? Success? Inner peace? Amazing health? Fabulous relationships? If not, join me on one of my upcoming web classes, “Don’t Believe A Thought You Think”, where you’ll learn exactly how to have all the success, inner peace, health, relationships, etc. that you want and deserve.