Are your fears holding you back from pursuing work you love and are passionate about? Find out how to overcome fear to change your life.
Learn to Pursue Your Passions by Overcoming Your Fears
Last week we took a look at loving what you do for a living as a means to getting rich. Unless you’re passionate about what you do, it is very difficult to find success or personal happiness. When you are not thrilled with your work, what are you doing unconsciously? Looking for a way out, yes or no? You’re always thinking “If there was something else …” You’re constantly searching.
Imagine driving on a highway. You’re looking for your exit. What lane would you drive in? The slow lane because you don’t want to miss the exit. If you weren’t looking for an exit, you’d be flying down the fast lane. Unconsciously, you wouldn’t even realize you were doing it unless you saw a cop or traffic jam. But, when you’re in that mode of looking for a way out, you never fully commit. You never get any momentum.
When you’re engaged in what you love to do, it’s like driving in the fast lane. Time flies by and more roads open up to you, alternate routes you may not have even known existed.
So, why don’t we all do what we love? You’d think it’d be natural choice, right? Natural talents are gifts from the universe or from whatever you want to call your creator. You can refine your talent, but it’s something that makes people say, “You’re a natural at that!”
How Fear and Obligation Hold Us Back
The reason a lot of people don’t find or create work that they love is fear, of course. It could be fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of change, fear of rejection, fear of looking foolish, or fear of disapproval. Whatever the case, it’s a story you make up about what might happen or what could be in the future.
In conjunction with fear is obligation. We all have obligations to memories of the past, obligations to other people, obligations to the freaking mortgage! If your mortgage is hampering your life, which one do you want to release? You’d think the logical answer is the mortgage, but guess which one most people release? They release their lives. Isn’t that wicked?
Whatever obligation it is, it’s nothing more than a fear that ‘If I don’t do this, something bad will happen to me.’ Obligation is a ‘should’. It’s a ‘have to’. It’s an opinion, though, and every one of those obligations is made up. You made the obligation up. It’s not true that you have to or that you should. It’s your opinion based on interpretations that you made about who you are, who others are to you, what’s important, or what’s not.
It’s time to forget the obligations. If they are not supporting you or propelling you toward work that you love, give them up. Don’t wait! Life is too short to work at something you really don’t love or have a passion for. When you do find work you’re passionate about, you will promote it like crazy. That’s how you’ll know it’s work that you love. Before you know it, you’ll be flying down the fast lane without looking for an exit. Do what you love and the money will come. You have to learn how to overcome fear and to trust yourself.
Your turn! Now we want to hear from you! What are some ways that you balance responsibility to others, like taking care of the family, for example, with responsibility to your own passions? What are some resources that we all have that can help us learn how to overcome fear and move past obligations?