Are you tired of living the same old life day in, day out? Well, I have some great news—you can do something about it!
By changing your habitual thoughts, you change your feelings about your situations, which then changes how you act and what you do, and then, before you know it, your life as a whole has changed! In other words:
Thoughts → Feelings → Actions → Results
We all have habitual thoughts — thoughts that pop into our head the second after we think about making a change. They often keep us doing the same things, going the same places, and having the same experiences. They impact literally every aspect of our lives, and, the thing is, they’re just reflexes. They’re usually not even true!
Take Charge Of The Remote
One way to change your thoughts is to imagine you’ve got a remote control that can change the channel in your mind.
For example, a friend was telling me how much he dislikes being around his mother-in-law. He said she’d made it clear in the beginning that she didn’t think he was rich or good enough for her daughter.
That was ages ago, though. Now he’s a successful lawyer, and he doesn’t even know if this is still an issue for her. Regardless, his habitual thought still popped up every time he was around her: “She thinks I’m not good enough, so I have to prove I am.” No wonder he didn’t want to spend time with her!
By taking charge of the remote control and changing the “channel” to see a different scenario — in this case, that he was good enough, and she thought so, too — he was able to let go of the habitual thought. And by doing that, he changed both his emotional reaction and his relationship with his mother-in-law. Good or good?
The remote control idea can work in any situation — personal, professional, and even spiritual. You could switch the channel to see yourself in a different job, back at school, volunteering, eating a different type of diet, in a new relationship, moving from the country to the city… the possibilities are endless!
Once you’ve changed the channel, notice how you feel. Does it make you feel light and happy, weighed down, or totally neutral?
I really want you to observe this closely because it’ll help you decide whether the scenario is something you want to work towards. If it feels good, go for it! If not, don’t. Yes, it can be that simple.
Old Thought Habits Are Keeping You Stuck
The reason you think the same way all the time is because it’s habitual. So in order for you to have a different life, you’re going to have to have a different way of thinking.
That’s why it’s important to notice your thought habits. They often show up as a “Yes, but” thought:
- “I got offered my dream job! Yes, but I can’t take it because it pays less.”
- “If I eat less sugar, I’ll be healthier. Yes, but life’s too short to deprive myself.”
- “This relationship isn’t working, so I should end it. Yes, but my family and friends love him/her.”
- “I’ve got a great idea for a business! Yes, but what if it’s a bust?”
You might know my favorite response when your mind brings up habitual thoughts: “Thank you for sharing.”
After that, use your handy-dandy remote to change your visual. That should give a clearer picture of what changes you need, and from there you can take the steps to make the change happen.
Small Changes Can Make An Impact
Here’s the truth: If you’re feeling stuck, you have to make some kind of change. Period.
Luckily, small changes can have a big effect. Sometimes, all it takes is changing up your routine. Maybe you go to the gym at a different time and meet your soulmate. Maybe you go to the library and find a book that changes your life. Maybe you try meditating and finally start feeling some much-needed peace.
Whatever your change is, big or small, remember that you must address your old thought habits too. Otherwise, the chances of your changes sticking are slim to none.
You’ve Got This!
I know change can be hard. If it were easy, people would do it all the time! But if it’s something that’s right, it’s worth it.
I have no doubt you’re up to the challenge, and now you’ve got some tools to help you out, too. Remember, making these changes — from your thoughts to your actions — is the only way you’ll become happier, richer, more successful, and finally able to live the life you want and deserve.
I’d love to hear what kind of change you want to make. In fact, if you write it in the comments below, it can be both as a pledge and a way to inspire others!
The truth is, sometimes when we go through our days based on habits alone, it’s because we’ve lost our passion.
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The name really says it all! In this class, I’ll teach you how to align with your passion, how to bring purpose to your life beyond taking care of the to-dos, and, of course, how to rake in the profits, too.
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For Your Freedom,