“When I have enough money, I’ll be happy.”
How many times have you thought this or something like it? Well, I hate to tell you, but it’s just not true.
In the Western world, we tend to focus on money as a source of happiness. But what is money? It’s paper. It’s metal coins. These things have no more power to make us happy than if someone gave us a rock.
Not everyone thinks money will bring happiness. Some people think it’ll bring freedom, control, or something else. These are all meanings people give to money. And if we believe them, but don’t have money, then what? We can’t be happy, we’re constricted, or we have no control over our lives.
It’s not about the money itself, it’s about the meaning behind the money.
The fact that money means different things to different people is proof that beliefs around money are just beliefs — NOT the truth.
Figuring out your “money meaning” is the first step towards reclaiming your true power. That is what will ultimately lead to greater wealth and success.
Now, I have a quick exercise to help you get started on this…
Please grab a paper and a pen and write down your answers to these questions:
- What does money mean to you?
- Who are you and how do you feel when you have money?
- Who are you and how do you feel when you don’t have money?
Done? Great! Now let’s talk about some of the answers this may have brought up.
As I’ve already said, people often relate money to happiness, control, or freedom. They may also relate it to security, success, fun, respect, or power.
So when they have money, they may feel happy, successful, secure, powerful, and so on. They’d go on to define themselves as a smart person, an expert in their field, a role model, etc.
On the flip side, when they don’t have money, they may feel unhappy, weak, insecure, and more. They may see themselves as a failure, a let down, insignificant, or someone who isn’t good enough for, well, anything.
This is giving money WAY too much credit! Paper and metal should not define who a person is.
See, there are plenty of rich people who aren’t happy. Money doesn’t buy loving relationships, bring good health, or magically heal self-doubt. It also doesn’t offer control over things like natural disasters, traffic, or the economy, and it isn’t required for freedom, either.
Regardless of how much money we have, our ability to choose our thoughts, words, and actions remain. So does the essence of who we are: our personality, our unique talents and perspectives, and our innate intelligence.
The fact is, who you are deep down doesn’t change regardless of how much is in your bank account.
So where do all these “money meanings” come from?
Our beliefs around money come from influencers such as our parents, teachers, friends, our community, the media, etc…. Basically from people we’re surrounded by who constantly tell us money is the cure for everything, and that people with money are better than those without it, and people without it don’t matter.
This all leads to shame, lack of confidence, and the biggie: fear.
When we give money meaning, our fear isn’t about losing money, it’s about losing whatever that money means, such as happiness, respect, security, or success.
Please keep in mind that I’m not discounting the importance of money — we obviously need it to pay for food, shelter, clothing, and other necessities. What I’m saying is that while money determines our financial worth, it shouldn’t determine our self-worth. We need to separate our money from our value as human beings.
This starts with knowing who we are regardless of our financial situation.
So I’m going to ask you to do another quick exercise…
Please grab your paper and pen again and take a few minutes to do the following:
- Describe who you are without letting money play a factor in your description. Get down to the core of yourself. Are you smart? Funny? Sensitive? A terrible speller? A survivor? Write it all down.
- Compare and contrast this to your answers in the first exercise. Writing down any observations or thoughts that pop into your head as you look everything over.
My hunch is that this exercise feels a lot different than the first one. Why? Because the truth always feels better. Truth also removes the meaning, and therefore the power, from money. Where does that power go instead? Directly to you.
In the end, money is just something people give you for solving their problem.
That’s it. And that’s why the best advice I can give you is to separate money from the fear-based meaning you give it.
You do this by focusing on helping people — on what problem you’ll solve and how you’ll solve it. Not only has this approach made me a multi-millionaire, it’s helped thousands and thousands of my students become extremely successful.
This really is a life-changing concept, and I’d love to know what you learned about yourself and your money beliefs. Please let me know using the comments section below!
As I’ve said, the meaning we give money comes from a place of fear. But we all have plenty of other fear-based thoughts that hold us back, too. It’s just part of being human.
I’ve done a ton of research into why this is, and I’ve learned a lot. I’ve also figured out a very simple sentence that can help you move past all that fear and into a place filled with wealth and success.
Want to learn more? Then join my FREE web class to start changing your life almost instantly. It’s called,
“Don’t Believe A Thought You Think,”
This is a really powerful class, and I’ve set up multiple dates and times, so you can just go here and pick the time and date that works best for you.
I look forward to having you there as my special guest!
For Your Freedom,