Avoid Self-Sabotage and Become Successful
If you’re not doing as well as you’d like to be doing, it’s likely you are trying to self-sabotage your success.
There’s only one thing that can make your success: you.
“No, Harv, you don’t understand. It’s my boss.” Forget about your boss. Your boss doesn’t run your life.
“You don’t understand. It’s my wife and my kids.” Forget about your wife and your kids. Well, no, actually, don’t do that, but you know what I mean. Rather, stop putting this on them. They don’t create your life. You do.
“You don’t understand. I come from ____.” Who cares where you come from? Where are you today? Where do you want to be tomorrow?
My friends…you create every minute of your life. It may not be exactly what you want, but that’s what you’re creating.
You’re creating it because that’s what you’ve always created. You’re good at it, so you create that. If you’re not rich, realize “I’m creating not rich for myself.” That means you’re self-sabotaging.
How You Block Yourself From Personal Success
Here’s the way I look at it. Imagine a stream. The stream goes from the mountains all the way down to the ocean. It would naturally be successful at getting to the ocean.
There’s only one problem. A huge log falls in the middle of the stream. It can’t get over the log. Little trickles are getting through, but that’s about it. Then other logs fall. Pretty soon the stream is completely redirected, and it’s not going where it’s supposed to go. It just dries up. Everything was perfect until the blockage came.
Without the blockage, every one of you is going to be successful. The reason you’re not as successful as you’d like to be, is because something is blocking you. That something is you.
What part of you is the only question we have to answer. How are you blocking yourself? How do you stop yourself from getting rich? How are you creating that?
I wish that somebody would have pulled me aside when I was 20 years old, shook me up and said, “You’re creating the problems you’ve got. It’s not them, it or that. It’s you. That means you have the power to un-create those and create something else.” When I learned that I truly created my life, I became free.
3 Ways To Self-Sabotage Personal Success
If you are sabotaging yourself, there are different payoffs. The most common are:
1. You remain a victim. Victims can’t succeed. If they succeed, they can’t be a good victim. This is their way of getting attention. There’s always something wrong. “Feel sorry for me.” That way, nothing can be expected of them, yet they get to enjoy the benefit of your pity, which then only reinforces the whole story.
2. If we don’t succeed, there aren’t a lot of expectations or responsibilities. I’ll put a spin on a decades-old Stan Lee comic book line: With great freedom comes great responsibility. If you want to be financially free, you gotta actually do what you say you’re going to do! You have to be accountable; to yourself and to others. What if we really succeed? How are we going to keep it up? Oh my god! That’s hard! What if people want things from you? When you decide that you are going to follow through on your commitments, and you do this consistently, that is the essence of spiritual maturity and a discipline for success.
3. Fatal Attraction. People fear success so irrationally, they imagine bad things happening instead of focusing on the key term here: success! “I don’t have to worry about people robbing me.” Seriously? Like you’re so important now that the criminal underworld has you in its clutches? Please! “I don’t have to have my friends saying, ‘Who the hell do you think you are?’” Other people’s approval is all of a sudden more important than the quality of your mental, emotional, and financial life?
Your mind is telling you the conditions as to why you are not successful. It’s all bullshit. Nothing is more important than succeeding with what you’ve got going right now.
What’s your payoff for not being rich right now? What do you get out of it?
Whatever that reason you keep telling yourself why you can’t be rich right now, ask yourself, “Is it true?”
Figure out your payoff. You’re going to have to go deep, and you’re going to have to be honest.
Whatever you find, please share your truth with us. You aren’t alone in this. It’s one of the most simple yet profoundly important discoveries you can make on your path toward personal success. We want to hear from you!
For Your Freedom,